After my mother’s death, her ashes were left at the Funeral Directors as my father had requested that upon his death his ashes were to be scattered with hers.
He was already ill at the time and because, as a family, we couldn’t decide who should take mum’s ashes in the meantime, they were just left in a store cupboard at the funeral parlour for the two years it took us to decide what we wanted to do!
“All that time, I felt guilty that we had just abandoned mum. It was a journey none of us wanted to make. So, when my father passed away, we felt pressured to collect my parents’ ashes.We stored them secretly at home away from the knowledge of our children, who had already suffered enough.”
It was quite sometime later that we had the courage to lay them to rest, together, along the coast at Eastbourne.
Two years ago, as a direct result of our family’s experience, my wife and I founded Secure Haven, a beautiful bespoke facility for the dignified storage of ashes to provide families the time and support they need before making final lasting decisions. My wife, Cheryl, has scoured the world for innovative cremation products and provided much needed support to the needs of every individual family. She manufactures in different countries to provide new ways to lay ashes to rest such as biodegradable urns that nurture new tree life and exquisite keepsake jewellery to hold a token of a beloved’s ashes.
Our sister company known as Secure Haven offers families a modern approach to providing affordable funeral services with traditional values based on their own personal loss. Their unique facility allows for memorial and life celebration services to take place at their Grade II listed Essex Barn in Margaretting near Chelmsford. This new funeral home also has its own onsite mortuary and welcoming visitation room for families to take time with their beloved to say final goodbyes.